I am officially back in my blogging groove! Missed you guys! Thanks for hanging with me. I had a good time writing the “30 in 30″ series, and I hoped you all enjoyed. Now it’s really time to reflect on what the next 30 years of my life will be like. I am convinced that nothing just happens. We have to make a decision, make efforts, and put in the work necessary to achieve our goals and fulfill our dreams.
So with that in mind, right after my 30th birthday, I decided to get refocused on my goals. Months ago I began to pursue my dream of writing a book and started working diligently toward it, but before I knew it I had let other things (interests, projects,etc) distract me and I got so busy that I literally had to put the book aside. Thank God, I slowly started removing those things and have now developed a new writing schedule. I’d like to be finished writing by the end of the summer. I started thinking that goal was way too ambitious, but then I saw this wisdom from super-producer Pharrell show up on my Facebook news feed.
What do you think about this? Is this realistic? Or is it possible to be too ambitious? Read more…
I dedicate this entire “30 in 30″ series to my AWESOME PARENTS!!!
Without you two, I don’t exist. Without you there are no 30 years to count, no reflections to share, and no breaths to take.
Thank you Mommy and Daddy for my very life!
Thank you Daddy!!! for being the single-most dependable man in my life, for showing me what real love is, for providing for me so well all these years, while still insisting that I become an independent woman! As I say all the time you are the first guy to win my heart without breaking it! You are the absolute BEST Daddy in the ENTIRE world!!! Wouldn’t trade you for nothing! Not even Lelar’s cherry cheesecake!
Mamo!!! Love you to pieces!!! You are, indeed, my #1 cheerleader! You are my support, my caretaker when I’m sick, and my friend when they are few. You are my homegirl to call in the middle of the night when I can’t sleep. You are FREAKING AWESOME! Nobody like you. Not now. Not ever. Not never. Keep being you. I love you forever!
Mom and Dad, I could’ve made you be just another item on my list, but you aren’t just another thing I’m grateful for. You are my foundation. I thank God upon every remembrance of you!
Much love also to my stepmom, my Tanyar! We’ve been hanging for some twenty plus years now! Thank you for loving me like your own. Thank you for your support, the way you give, and for everything you’ve EVER DONE FOR ME!!! I could not ask for a better Stepmom! Love you TO DEATH!!!
So now…onto my top Life Lessons…
#5 Time Is Fleeting and People Move, So Drink the Moments Deeply.
It was August 2005 and I had just moved to Chicago to begin my Master’s degree program. It was both an exciting and terrifying time. One afternoon I was downtown Chicago on State Street, doing a little shopping with Dad and Tanya before they left. All of a sudden it hit me, that I would never be around my college friends on a regular basis again. Just 3 months earlier I and my buddies from Howard University (Washington, DC) were celebrating our accomplishment of graduating college. My linesisters and I were flooding the main yard of our school with pink and green shirts, bags, and umbrellas. And I was spending my Sundays with my DC Church family, worshipping, eating dinner, and hanging out afterwards. But now several days and miles away, in a random epiphany on a sunny Chicago afternoon, it hit me that my DC life as I knew it was over, never to return. Sure I would go back to visit, and I would see a lot of those people again, but my time living as part of that community had ended and I could never go back. This is when I first really experienced the idea of “time as fleeting.” The point is, enjoy the people you love while you can because nothing stays the same. People move. People die. Life changes all the time. So drink the moments deeply.
#4 Women and Girls Matter and Have Human Rights That Everyone Should Respect. Listen, I am pretty sure I came out of the womb a feminist-womanist. I have NO tolerance for women being mistreated, dominated, abused, controlled, discriminated against, not paid or treated equally, oppressed, and any other awful verb you want to place there. Women are not a lesser sex. Eve was called a helper not because she was to be subservient to Adam, but because she had something to give to Adam that he would not otherwise have. Check the original Hebrew. I am not making this up.
#3 Real Love Never Ends. I’ve been disappointed in relationships enough to know Read more…
Happy FRIDAY! Time for more reflections! LET’S GO!!! Number #16 of the 30 in 30 series was “Gratitude is Paramount,” so the next few reflections will be about people for whom and things for which I am incredibly grateful.
#9 My Godparents. These are some of the most awesome people in the world. I’ve written about them before on Ari Speaks. I cannot tell you how much richer they make my life. My Godfather is such an incredible leader with an unbelievable work ethic. Those qualities combined with his anointing as a minister and his deep compassion for people make him an amazing person from which to learn. What I love most about him is that he is totally down to Earth and always willing to share his wisdom with me. My Godmom is one of the most loving people I know who gives deeply and generously. She is always paying close attention to me, discerning my needs and feelings. And I absolutely love her for that. And if you hang around her you will not stop laughing. She is a HOOT! Most of all I am grateful that my Godparents love me like their own and always open their hearts and home to me. They are just what I need when I need it. Love them to death!
#8 My Baby Cousins. I’m pretty sure there’s nothing better in the world than a baby cousin and thankfully I have a ton of them! Some of them I see all the time, others just once in a while, and some think my home is their vacation spot, but I love them all. I don’t have siblings so no nieces or nephews for me, but I do have my baby cousins that simply mean the world to me. They make me laugh, keep me informed on what’s hot, and love me just for me.
#8b Family Listen, these people are dope. I won’t go into a long discussion. There just is not enough space here. They’ve made me who I am. And I’m grateful. Super S/O to the Mosses, Browns’, Williams’, and Swintons’! Much LOVE!!!
#7 Black Girls Rock!!! I absolutely LOVE being a Black Girl. I have a rich Read more…
He was tall, dark-skinned, dreads, everything I could’ve ever wanted in a…Wait, did you think this post was about my love life? Well…It’s NOT!!! BAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAAAA!!! I know, I know, evil little trick I played there. But technically this post is about loves of my life though… Things I’m crazy about, hobbies, favorite things, etcs. So let’s dive into a few more 30th birthday reflections!!!
#15 Pumps–I live in high heels. Truth is when I go too many days without wearing pumps, my feet start cramping. True story. My family members can attest to this. I’m convinced that women who wear pumps develop a unique strength because of the muscle you build in your legs by wearing them and the willpower you must have to keep wearing them long after that have expired for the day. LOL!
#14–Topsy’s Cinnamon Popcorn. Topsy’s is a Kansas City institution and they make the best popcorn in the world. Period. My favorite is cinnamon and it will bless your LIFE! I have had the blessing of living in a few fabulous cities in my short lifetime including Washington DC and Chicago. I was totally perplexed when I first tasted the famous Garrett popcorn in Chicago. People actually stand in long lines, down streets, and around corners waiting for that cheesy greasy awful stuff. Yep, Chicagoans I said it. It’s awful! I’m like what’s all the hype? Topsy’s is waaaay better. This is not up for discussion. LBVS!
#13–The Kansas City Chiefs. Say what you want about my team, but I love them. I ride or die for my chiefs. That is all.
#12 Travel. I am usually down to go anywhere! I’ve been all over the U.S. and even to South Korea once! I’m ready for a bit more international travel and I’m also interested in going on a cruise. Who’s with me?
#11 I love COACH bags!!! I’m becoming a Kate Spade and Michael Kors girl too, but I will always love COACH! Read more…